In a world of influencers and online altercations, teaching children and teens core about etiquette values is vital. Polite Power rejuvenates these timeless constructs with age-specific lessons that meld universal principles with relatable scenarios.
Humorous explanations, cartoons, tables, and charts make this encyclopedic guide easy to digest. Fun chapter quizzes and goofy role-play options provide an engaging way to reinforce new skills.
1. Be Polite to Yourself
When many people think of teaching etiquette, they imagine preschoolers saying “please” and “thank you.” But a polite lifestyle goes beyond those basic words. Polite behavior also means avoiding curse words, offensive language and put-downs in conversations, not ignoring eye contact and always greeting people with a smile.
It also includes writing thank-you notes, and not just for gifts after a job interview it is appropriate to send a handwritten note of appreciation. It is a form of verbal ritual deference that shows courtesy and power, rather than the self-serving bluster we all too often see from those who trade in their good manners for crassness.
In a world where influencers set trends and virtual altercations can escalate quickly, understanding the core tenets of respectful interaction is more important than ever. This book helps teens to do just that with lessons and insights that are as practical as they are empowering.
2. Be Polite to Others
Polite people help others feel comfortable, which leads to higher productivity. “People are not productive when they feel uncomfortable,” says etiquette expert Maryanne Parker. A boss who interrupts employees or dismisses their ideas can make an employee feel uneasy, and he or she may stop giving their best work.
Polite adults know that it is polite to listen attentively, and not interrupt when someone else is speaking. They also avoid blaming or attacking others, and don’t resort to rude language in public settings.
When people are introduced, polite adults remember names and call them by name so that the person feels seen and valued. They also refrain from discussing topics that are inappropriate in polite conversation, such as sex, violence, death, and medical information.
Teens who want to be polite can practice this behavior by role playing with their parents or asking their teachers for help. They can also use everyday opportunities, like returning an item at the store or requesting another drink in a restaurant, to practice their manners. They can also dress appropriately and choose clothing from brands committed to politeness and sustainability.
3. Be Polite in Public
When in public, it’s important to be polite and courteous to everyone, including strangers. A simple “hello” and a smile when meeting new people goes a long way in making others feel welcomed and at ease. Kids should also practice being respectful when they’re around other people by using kind words and keeping their hands to themselves.
Many teens like to text their friends in the presence of adults, and even though it’s OK for them to be on their phones at home or with their peers, doing so with acquaintances and parents is rude and inappropriate. It’s also impolite to interrupt other people in conversation, so kids should wait for a pause or until the person finishes their thought before adding their own comment.
It’s also rude to gossip, so encourage your kids to speak about other people positively and only share information they can vouch for. When they do make a mistake, they should be willing to admit it and apologise. (Mistakes are a normal part of life, after all!) You can give your teens opportunities to practice their politeness by talking about how they should greet and interact with family members or strangers at the mall or a restaurant.
4. Be Polite in Private
Teaching your teen etiquette isn’t limited to the public sphere. It also involves everyday behaviors like returning items at the store, scheduling their own appointments and writing thank you notes. Providing your teen with opportunities to practice these skills will help them develop into well-mannered adults.
For example, polite people are very careful not to touch others or invade their personal space. They also never gossip or talk badly about other people behind their back, Tsai says. When they make a mistake, polite people apologize and try to correct the situation.
Polite people are liberal with compliments, she adds. They don’t tell anyone that they think someone else is ugly or fat, and they let their friends know when they really love their new haircut.
Ultimately, the key to being polite is leaving the world and all living things better than you found them. That might mean letting a stranger cut in front of you in line or holding the door open for someone else. The small gestures may not put you out, but they can make a big difference in countless lives.
5. Be Polite at Home
You’ve taught your kids to say please and thank you, keep their elbows off the table and knock before entering a room. But you may be surprised to learn how many rules of etiquette they are breaking etiquette that could prevent them from making a great impression, landing an internship or getting invited to social events.
Polite Power is a workshop that equips teens with the tools to develop a deep sense of respect in their daily interactions. Through interactive lessons and activities, students will learn how to make a good first impression, communicate without using words like “um” and “like”, show appreciation, dine gracefully and more.
Remember, etiquette is a learned behavior and it takes time for teens to become naturally polite. Be patient and help them along the way by demonstrating the behaviors that you want them to emulate. Also, be sure to praise their efforts; children are more likely to continue doing the right thing if they receive positive feedback. In the end, practicing politeness will pay off for them in their personal and professional lives.